The Winning Way

 

Today is Wednesday July 14, 2010

Thought For The Day

“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear — not absence of fear.”
– Mark Twain

 

I Have Been Thinking

Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he’ll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

You too can become a socially-empowered person. You can achieve  much greatness, and you can find people that will help catapult you  to success.

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you can reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can’t see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.  Yesterday we talked about finding the habits that need to be changed, today let’s take a look at where to start.

1. Be genuine.

Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested in people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Be the greatest listener that you can be.

To earn the love and trust of others, listen to their problems and empathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, because it does. 

3. Laugh out loud.

This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Don’t forget yourself.

Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness.

You don’t have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings on charity. Little acts of kindness matter  most.  Whether it is for family or friends, or newly found acquaintences, what you do will be remembered more than what you say.

6. Contact your old friends.

Thanks to technology, you can rebuild relationships. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people with whom you want to communicate. Adding these old friends to your roster of supporters will surely make you feel good all over.  This may also mean extending forgiveness.

7. Develop your personality.

Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can’t go through life with those. Really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?  Force yourself to smile, make yourself find the good in everything, you will grow.

8. Be confident.

Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice control.

When angry, don’t snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and positive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.

Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. We need people, and people need us when we give them the opportunity to know that you will be there.

Take stock, this is just a list of ten things. Out of this list we can no doubt find many things in our lives that need attention, improvement or a complete make-over.

Opportunity is never lost
It goes To Those Ready to Accept It!
Your Success is my Greatest Interest
CWinslow

 

Ice Breakers

 

Questioning Faith…

My grandmother, who lived in Tucson, was
well-known for her faith and lack of reticence in
talking about it. She would go out on the front
porch and say, “Praise the Lord!”

Her next door neighbor would shout back,

“There ain’t no Lord!”

During those days, my grandmother was very
poor, so the neighbor decided to prove his point
by buying a large bag of groceries and placing
it at her door.

The next morning, Grandmother went to the
porch and, seeing the groceries, said, “Praise
the Lord!”

The neighbor stepped out from behind a tree
and said, “I brought those groceries,
and there ain’t no Lord.”

Grandmother replied, “Lord, you not only sent
me food but you made the devil pay for it.”

 

 Tip

 

There are many self analysis lists available in books like Think and Grow Rich or Psycho Cybernetics.  If these two books are not in your library, they should be.

Happy Designing